I don't have to be male to know what healthy masculinity looks like - that's a specious comment if I ever heard one. Aside from being on the receiving end of the bad sort for the past 5 decades, I'm a longtime student of sociology. I understand way more about the dynamics of our culture than you do apparently. I haven't said anything against "traditional masculinity" except when it tips over into the destructive zone.

The most important thing is that people should be who they are - not what conforms to some notion of yours of what men are supposed to be.