I don't identify as a feminist and even if I did, there are something like 17 types of feminism. Imagining that they all the same and believe exactly alike and then making other people responsible for those beliefs, is inappropriate. It is completely and totally wrong to take other people to task for things that they have not actually said.

So far, you have presented no references, no facts, and no data with citations. You've asserted things that are patently wrong, so unless you actually come up with those things, I will continue to assert that you are pulling this stuff out of your own biases and unsubstantiated beliefs (otherwise known as your ass).

I don't see you as a bad person, but I do see lots of room for you to do better as far as how you interact with and debate with others. And if you don't know what you're talking about or you are introducing off-topic content into the mix in order to deflect from the fact that you can't otherwise rebut, you are the one who is being toxic. Want to engage in good faith? Then actually do that.