I don't really understand your answer but it sounds like you are saying that since, after nearly 100 years of intense struggle, petitions, lawsuits, beatings, jailings, and other abuse (literally fighting tooth and nail for their rights), that men finally granted women the right to vote which means that men played some sort of important role in the change in gender expectations. Yeah, they finally realized that their absurd position that women were too stupid, too dependent, or too fragile to be considered full citizens was no longer sustainable. Gee thanks... That's not exactly the example of robust allyship I was looking for.

And it's always been like that, just as it's always been that way with civil rights for Black people. As Martin Luther King famously noted, "freedom is never given voluntarily by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed." That doesn't mean that no white people worked for or believed in racial equality. It means that white society as a whole did not - just as male society as a whole has never supported gender equality - and in fact some segments lash back against it quite vehemently even today - which makes women feel that they are still fighting tooth and nail for their equality.

An example: I was having a look on Twitter at #FirstHarassed - a thread where thousands and thousands of women (and a few men) simply stated when they were first sexually harassed. Quite often it was when she was a girl of 10 or so, walking home from school and an adult man or men, said inappropriate things, tried to get her to go with them, and otherwise terrified and upset them. The fact that this is so common, at such a young and age (statistically nearly all girls have been harassed by 17) indicates that it's not a problem we as a society care about solving. I got sexually harassed for the first time at 11 and that was over 50 years ago. The situation hasn't improved or changed because we as a culture tolerate it - despite the fact that these are little girls. And to add insult to injury, the thread is filled with comments from men telling these women to "get over it" or to stop abusing men (simply by stating what factually happened to them). It's incredibly disturbing but also par for the course in our culture. There were a couple guys in there chastising these insensitive idiots or recommending that people have a look at this thread by way of educating themselves about a terrible problem, but they were just a few in a sea of abusive and fragile men. And that's how it always is when women ask to be seen and to have their experiences cared about. #MeToo was another shining example. The amount of vitriol and abusiveness it unleashed was just disgusting.

That's what I'm talking about when I say that women have fought for thousands of years to change their gender boxes and that men need to step up and do the same. Writers like Mark Greene here on Medium and organizations like Remaking Manhood are trying, but they too face an uphill battle and a lot of backlash. That's what I'm speaking to.