I generally HATE porn, for all of the reasons that you've named. It leaves me frustrated and generally kind of turned off. I want to be aroused and excited, and instead I'm just thinking about how there is no way she's enjoying that, and how stupid and formulaic it is.

There's one from Lust cinema called Pool Boy that I actually really like because it's a man and a woman just really enjoying each other's bodies in a sensual and truly sexy way. Two attractive but basically normal looking people (not Barbies and weird looking guys with donkey dicks). I could go on, but I know you get the gist and I don't have to.