I get what you're saying here, but as per some of the other comments below, the number of guys who are asking good faith questions is in my experience (and that of every woman I know) quite small. “You do the legwork and the research for me and then I'll stand here and shoot holes in it" is what I've mostly experienced. Marginalized people do not owe it to others to educate them about their struggles.
It is indeed incumbent on men to mostly do their own research and to become fluent with what is really going on for women in this culture if they want to be allies. There are thousands of online articles, books, podcasts, etc. available. Women write about it daily here on Medium, but it's also regularly in the news.
And insinuating that if we don't pander to men and devote ample energy to educating them kindly enough that they'll turn towards the Peterson's of the world is honestly quite offensive. I know you think it's a reasonable thing to say, but it really isn't... it's a function of privilege.
“We must stop demanding emotional and mental labor from those of us who are already dedicating our time and energy to simply survive. If you care about an issue and want to be a better ally, go and educate yourself on the issue or community you support. Use your resources and take initiative. And most importantly, be willing to recognize your own position of privilege.
As Audre Lorde once said, “Whenever the need for some pretense of communication arises, those who profit from our oppression call upon us to share our knowledge with them. In other words, it is the responsibility of the oppressed to teach the oppressors their mistakes. ... Women are expected to educate men. Lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world. The oppressors maintain their position and evade responsibility for their own actions.”
If you are privileged in any way, you must take ownership of the fact that you may belong to a group that has contributed to the systemic oppression of other groups. No one is blaming you for anything, but you must be held accountable. If this bothers you and you want to learn more about it, the answer is simple: Do your research.”
