I guess I've been lucky that I've never really encountered much resistance to condom use. Since we opened up our marriage, there's been none. My experience at least is that swingers/ENM folks are more likely to consider condom use to be expected. We use these ultra-thin ones that James says are really no big deal when we play with others.

Feeling entitled to "the best sensation" at the expense of being responsible or upholding what you've already agreed to is not OK. Thanks for writing this. It's a shame that it needs to be said.