I haven't said anything remotely like that, and if you paid attention rather than getting hysterical you'd know that. Men aren't any better or worse than women in the abstract, but masculine culture and gender norms in this society are demonstrably bad - for everyone - including men. And with rare exceptions, all men participate in and uphold those norms and culture to a greater or lesser extent. More than 90% of all violence and all sexual violence is perpetrated by men - against women and children, but also against other men. The guys who don’t do it still uphold a culture that normalizes it.
Except for a small number of psychopaths, these aren't "bad apples" they are guys who are acting out mainstream masculine norms that tell them to be aggressive, dominant, and to control women. An American is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds - the bulk of them women and children. 3 women per day are killed by current or former male domestic partners - accounting for close to half of all women who are murdered in America. If that were happening to men, due to feminine culture, would you be standing quietly by just accepting it with grace, or would you be demanding better?
It be a lot more productive use of your time if you joined the men (and others) who are working to change the culture, rather than having a hissy fit that it's unfair to talk about how masculine norms drive violence and inequality.
It is long past time that men from all walks of life owned up to their part in all this. The status quo is simply unacceptable. And while it is crucial that women and men work together to address the problem, the primary responsibility resides with men. Men, after all, are the primary perpetrators of rape, battering, sexual abuse, and sexual harassment, at least according to those radical feminists over at the FBI. So we can dispense with the idea that it is anti-male to say what everyone already knows to be true. There is an awful lot of violence against women in our society, and men commit the vast majority of it.
I believe that men who are silent in the face of other men’s violence—whether the silence is intentional or not—are complicit in the perpetration of that violence. We’re not guilty because we’re men. We’re responsible—because we’re men—either for speaking out or for not speaking out about other men’s violence.
Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 30). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.
