I highlighted half the story. This should be required reading!

I absolutely cannot orgams with people I don't know well and don't yet have that level of trust with. Respecting a woman, making her feel safe both physically and emotionally, not just trying to "get some" from her, doing your share to make sure her mind can actually focus on intimacy - these are all critical elements that you brought up. Thanks so much for writing this because it will mean a lot more to some guys coming from another man.