I know what your meaning was. And I pointed out to you that although from a social science perspective you are largely correct - because patriarchy is a dominance based hierarchy that is shaped like a pyramid, with only a few elites at the apex - this is still an incredibly androcentric culture where men are in many ways still considered "default" citizens and women are treated as though they are a minority. When I was a child (I'm 59) men still had hundreds of more rights by law than women - so say nothing of the culture. Imagining that this has entirely evaporated in one or two generations is naive and sociologically incorrect.

I recognize that not all men have the same power or clout as the elites. As a social scientist, this is one of my primary areas of study. One can have both privilege and oppression at the same time and there are many things that poorer men, or non-white men in particular face that are both systemic and difficult. And, that being said, it's still an androcentric society where a major aspect of the pervasive culture of masculinity is to dominate women and keep them "in their place."

Sometimes this happens coercively, through sexual harassment or workplace discrimination and sometimes it happens in more subtle ways, through things like men having more lines in just about all movies - even ones that are about women. You don't personally have to be doing anything because upholding that system is enough to allow it to continue (same goes for racism, homophobia, etc.). Unless one is actively challenging the systems that normalize those things and keep them in place, one is, in fact, upholding them and complicit.