I like P in V, but it’s not going to give me an orgasm. And even if it did, I’d still want to mix things up and not do the same old thing every time. I’d still want to be courted and treated like a lover, and not the housekeeper that he’s “allowed” to fuck. Fortunately, I did find such a man, but guys are not necessarily brought up to understand that women want these things. They may believe the patriarchal narrative that a woman wants a home and the security of a partner and that this is really enough for her. If you want a lover, you’ve got to treat her like a lover.