I love this idea and believe it would make a huge difference in our culture - for both women and men. Currently, too much about sex is parsed as "conquest" and "domination." True D/s relationships, when properly entered into can be extremely intimate, caring, and even healing - but that's very different than the sort of domination that is too often encouraged in men and depicted. And, I totally respect if that's not your jam, but just wanted to put out there that there is such a thing as caring domination where the sub actually is the one with all of the power. But, I digress.... Yes to all of what you've said here. If more men understood just how much their sex lives would improve by making the woman feel really physically and emotionally safe and secure, they'd shake their heads at the "let me see what I can get" attitudes they'd too often bought into.