I ran across this again today. Maybe you or someone else will find it helpful. (I didn't write it, BTW).

What I Have Learned From Women Who Don’t Want to Have Sex With Their Husbands

“Yes, sex is important in a relationship. But isn’t that too simple a statement? What kind of sex? What quality? Under what circumstances? And how do we honor the answers to those questions not just for the male partner — but for the female partner, too?

Believe it or not, I’m excited to be here, facing this particular challenge that so many of us are tackling. Men have the incredible opportunity to truly face their sexual privilege and learn how to build real, layered, sustaining intimacy with a female partner in ways that I suspect will immensely benefit their general well-being.”