I so appreciate the way that you are sensitive to nuance, although I think your title is inflammatory. More than one thing can be true at a time, and everybody's pain counts. I agree with that entirely. However, #MeToo is not an overreaction, it’s not a problem and I hear that from “good” men way too often. And that is a problem.

A sad byproduct of pervasive predation of women is that at times they are oversensitive to it. This can hardly be blamed on them (and I'm not saying that you are). What it speaks to is a toxic soup of culture that needs to improve for all our sakes. This is not the fault of #MeToo - it's the fault of a culture that has resisted responding to the lessons of #MeToo.

My son is autistic. He hasn't the foggiest notion about what is "appropriate" or not. Sometimes he hugs women by putting his hands on their breasts - not because he wants to grope them, but because he wants to create a bit of space and that's what seems to him like the way to do it. So, I applaud you for taking on Dave's point of view. We absolutely need to take into account those who are differently abled.

And, at the same time, we live in a culture that systemically and routinely undermines women's body autonomy and humanity. It's great to encourage tolerance and nuance - but the most concrete way that can come about is if predation of women weren't so mainstream and normalized. They wouldn't be so oversensitive if they weren't so routinely attacked and harmed from childhood forward. I think we can all do better.

Great piece!