I stayed home for 15+ years raising our special needs son. Even once I started working again, my husband still far out-earned me. What you're describing was never a factor for us - because we always looked at the arrangement as a partnership. You're making stuff up and deciding it's true based on nothing but how it seems to you without actually investigating it. Aside from that, women are outearning men in 42 US cities, and those numbers will keep growing as more women than men seek higher education.
Men aren't not giving as much emotionally as most women would like because they do the bulk of the earning (something that is far from universal in this day and age where 30% of women make the same as their man and 20% make more). Men are not giving as much as most women want emotionally because that's how they have been trained to behave by a patriarchal culture. Hellooo!
What on earth does "equality has cost us our modes of attraction" even mean? Women who are not interested in relationships with men are shunning them for the exact opposite reason you seem to believe - not nearly enough equality. Women initiate 70% of divorces - because too many men are not emotionally available, don't want to work on the relationship, and they still don't do their fair share of chores and parenting. Women desperately want a whole fuck ton more equality before they can begin to be interested in a man - because he's competing against her peace and stability at this point. She no longer needs him for social status or financial status - so she no longer has to put up with bullshit in order to have that.
Honestly, Jack - just deciding how things are because of how they seem to you is not a very scientific enterprise. In the West we have hook-up culture, ubiquitous violent and misogynistic porn, Bro-culture, the manosphere, and kids who grew up on their phones rather than learning how to talk to each other. That's the social issue in the culture - not too much equality. 🙄
These clinical observations are consistent with what the study’s lead author, Michael Rosenfeld, suggests: that women may be more likely to initiate divorces because the married women reported lower levels of relationship quality than married men. In contrast, women and men in non-marital relationships reported equal levels of relationship quality. Rosenfeld said his results support the feminist assertion that some women experience heterosexual marriage as oppressive or uncomfortable.
He adds, “I think that marriage as an institution has been a little bit slow to catch up with expectations for gender equality. Wives still take their husbands’ surnames, and are sometimes pressured to do so. Husbands still expect their wives to do the bulk of the housework and the bulk of the childcare. On the other hand, I think that non-marital relationships lack the historical baggage and expectations of marriage, which makes the non-marital relationships more flexible and therefore more adaptable to modern expectations, including women’s expectations for more gender equality.”
