I sure hope that feminism is socially remaking our society!! Because I want to live in a world where everyone has equal opportunity and is not judged around their aptitude or competence before they've even gotten a chance to demonstrate it just because of their gender. I want to live in a world where boys aren't killing themselves because they've been bullied for not fitting into a tiny box of masculine norms.
I'm not really following you on the parts about homosexuality, so I won't address that here, but I've spoken to you in the past about the abusive mothers thing, I'm sure, so I wasn't going to reiterate. Mothers spend way, way more time with children than dads do. A huge number of women with children are raising them alone and getting no emotional or financial support from the child's father. Women are more likely to be poor and under stress; they are more likely to have been abused themselves (a common indicator of abuse is having been a victim).
I looked at statistics for 2020 and the number differences were about 23k. Given how much more time women spend with children and how many women in poverty are raising children alone, I was kind of shocked that the numbers were so close. 248,335 for women and 225,0202 for men. And how exactly does this relate to this discussion anyhow? Why even bring it up in this context?
Nobody is replaceable and I've never said that they are, or anything remotely like that. I was talking earlier with a friend who just lost her mom and I pointed out to her how her life will never be the same, even though she will eventually come to a place where the grief is not so overwhelming. The question was never that dads (or anyone) are disposable and in fact I actually said that in the OP. "Dad's aren't disposable."
But as I've already said about 20 times to you - losing your dad to death, or because he abandons you - does not automatically equate to a life of substance abuse and delinquency. And that has been the narrative that it does - and I'm simply speaking to how that narrative is wrong. That doesn't mean it's not a tough loss if your dad abandons you - as such a shockingly high number of divorced dads do. The point is that if you've got a crappy dad, or no dad, you can still grow up to have a successful life - which is why that was the title of the OP. It is not intrinsic to success or happiness to have one in your life. That doesn't mean that this relationship means nothing. I don't understand why that is so hard to parse out the differences between those two or why you'd think that is what I was saying. We don't know each other all that well, but I'd think you'd know me well enough by now to not honestly think that is what I meant - particularly since I said over and over again that it wasn't what I meant.
Parents are unique and primal connections, but if those get severed for some reason, you can recover if you have the property support in other ways. That's all I'm saying.
