I too am a firm believer in personal responsibility - for the things that one does actually have control over - which is a lot. The thing that bugs me the most about incels is the entitlement - "Where is my 'fair share'? as if women were commodities rather than people. Although the hate and dehumanization isn't so good either...

Yes, guys like you probably are my target audience in many ways. I want people to see that challenging patriarchy does not mean demonizing men and that we do have the ability to co-create a better culture together, one that benefits us all.

Just for "market research" - what are the things I've said that don't really resonate for you? I'm genuinely curious - not out of antagonism, but because I want to be as widely accessible as I can be.