I understand what you're saying, and you have my empathy about how difficult social aspects of life can be for someone on the spectrum. But the premise of my story is that you need to be yourself but also learn new skills that "polish you up." You said that polishing up was becoming "not yourself" in order to please someone else.

"Adding polish and just being yourself are not the same, that's for all intents and purposes lying about who you are so other people will like you."

When I pointed out to you that this isn't remotely true, then you switched your "point" to that being yourself is never going to be enough in your case. That's moving the ball. Maybe that's true in your case, (even though millions of autistic people ARE married), but that wasn't speaking to the point of my essay. I never promised that if you were yourself, you'd get a date. I said that being yourself was good dating advice and then explained why. Trying to negate a point that I haven't made is moving the ball.