I will take your word on Galations.

It has been highly insulting and sad to say, typical mansplaining, for you to continuously tell me all the things I don't know about my own area of expertise. I should be used to it by now, it's what a lot of men do, but somehow being continually underestimated and demeaned never seems to get any easier to swallow.

My assessment that you are coming from a place of wounding rather than rational thought is predicated on you consistently avoiding certain direct questions, refusing to speak to the systemic abuse that women face in this culture, even when presented with facts around that, still acting as though women are somehow overreacting, and saying things like, "Feminism has nothing to offer men." Would you feel comfortable announcing that anti-racism has nothing to offer white people? I seriously doubt that ... You seem like a nice person who cares about the world - but then you say things like that it feel very much like "lashing out."

And if you won't show up in actual good faith, even though you say that is your intention, I can only conclude that you are actually being run by your subconscious. I realize that is probably the most insulting thing I could possibly say to a man, and it is not my intention to insult you, but at the same time, I call it as I see it. Maybe I'm wrong, but the other option is that you really are an a-hole and you've just been toying with me the entire time. I don't think that's the case. That would be a stain on your character. Being run by your wounds from behind the scenes is not. It makes you human. In fact, there may be places where I've done a little bit of that as well. I have 20 years of experience examining my shadow, learning to interrogate my thinking, and understanding what triggers me, so I don't believe that's what's been going on, but it is entirely possible because only about 4% of what we view as thought is conscious - according to cognitive and neuroscience. I have better skills than most people for having more of my thought be conscious because I've worked at it, but that doesn't make me infallible.

So, I'm not going to apologize for concluding that you are not an a-hole, you are instead being run from behind the scenes by things you aren't consciously aware of. And I'm tired of attempting to talk to you about this stuff when you are seemingly not able to truly engage with the subject matter except in a lashing out kind of way.

I'm incredibly tired... every woman I know is incredibly tired... from trying to get men to give a fuck because it's pretty clear that most of them really don't want to. Even guys who really are good guys at heart... and that's really demoralizing and sad.