I would concur that we live in a deeply and profoundly racist patriarchy. And that's not because it's coming from the "woke." It's coming from the people who are experiencing that, including me. I also witness and experience patriarchy around me every single day - not just the gendered aspect, although there is plenty of that, but the entire element of social stratification that is maintained by force - which is what patriarchy truly is. Once you grasp that and understand it, you can't unsee it, and you notice how it's everywhere. We almost can't help but have such profound levels of racism, misogyny, homophobia, etc. in this type of social system because that's the way it's designed. The top of the hierarchy is predicated on there being those who are stepped on nearer to the base. It's the way that social system is designed - to look like a pyramid.

If you are going to read one piece of mine on this topic, read the one about how we know we are still living in a patriarchy. It lays it all out in detail.

I have read several other "perspectives" on race and found them to be full of holes that simply don't measure up to reality. If the people you are relying on for information are feeding you things that go against what the data actually suggests, I wouldn’t consider them intelligent — I’d consider them ideologues. I would recommend that you continue to seek information from more places than you are used to as well since the stuff that you brought to me, which seemed true and therefore valid to you, was actually completely off base and coming out of somebody's ideology rather than a search for what is actually so.

Spending time railing against the "woke" is preventing you from seeing where many of the things they are saying have something to them. My interest is in what's real and actual, not how I'd like things to be. I'm willing to change my point of view when new data points to that. That's only rational. To cling to a position when the data points against it is where the emotional response comes in.

Which is why I've determined that the writer of this OP is doing that. On more than one occasion he has just stopped responding to what I'm saying because he sees there is no defense - that what I'm saying is accurate, so he just stops debating me, but then doesn't change anything about his stance. The next day he's out there again saying the same things, even though they have been refuted by his own acknowledgement. That's not rational. It's an emotional response and a kind of defense mechanism.