I write about how men have unique problems all the time. I've never denied that. You're projecting and making up stories - yet again.
And as already demonstrated to you quite overwhelmingly, not all feminists are indifferent to men. Their main focus is on the problems of women - as it should be. For thousands of years women have been expected to put themselves last and the needs of men (and children) first. That time is over. Stop acting like it shouldn't be, because that makes you a part of the problem. Feminism demonstrably is good for men, and is something that many, many feminists do think about - but not by prioritizing it above their own issues.
To quote yourself, "Not everything is about you." We live in a world that still overwhelmingly centers and prioritizes men's needs and power. If women in a college club wanted to counter that by empowering more women, that's not a personal attack on you. It's you being unhappy with the playing field starting to even out, just like the MAGAs. Blaming women for that is like blaming Blacks for the KKK. "If you stopped asking to be treated with dignity, we wouldn't have the need for the KKK." 🙄 Stop asking women to deprioritize their safety, equality, and dignity for you and the comfort of other men.
It's not exactly in dispute that most of the violence, sexual predation, and a host of other societal problems is caused by "traditional" patriarchal masculine norms. Your gender clinging to that is demonstrably a huge problem, whether or not you are in particular. Again, Not everything is about YOU, although you do benefit from that situation, whether or not you want to, so there’s that as well.
Men do have problems that are often unique to them, and that's fine to talk about, but not as a "whataboutism" in a story about women's problems. That's your mistake and why it’s not received well. Take your own advice and stop centering yourself in every discussion. If you want people to learn about and talk about men's problems, then write your own stand alone stories about that - don't try to hijack ones written about women's problems and experiences.
Stop looking for someone to tell you how to be a man and concentrate on being a good human being. Why do you want to shove yourself into boxes created by other people hundreds or even thousands of years ago?
One of the ways you can be a good human being is to stop blaming women for wanting to not be sexually harassed beginning at 9 or 10 years old, to be able to leave their drink without being drugged, to not have an astronomical chance of being sexually assaulted or raped, to want to be safe from violence - both on the streets and in their own homes.
If you think that women are out of line for caring about those things and not prioritizing men's interests and problems, then you're a misogynist with deeply embedded patriarchal beliefs. Do better - and you can begin by giving up these fairy tales you like to tell that justify your martyrdom.
There are plenty of hotlines and resources for men who have been sexually assaulted.
There are plenty of men's support groups, therapists, and podcasts/books aimed at helping men with their unique experiences of patriarchy.
There are millions of women who talk about and care about those things.
Women are not actually “winning” at men’s expense in any arena of American life.
When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
You can keep wallowing in your misery or you can grow up and participate in creating a better culture for everyone’s benefit. I suspect I know which one you will choose, because digging deep is hard work and stomping your feet is not, but whatever. It’s your life.
I don’t have any more time for this discussion.
