If people are going to start changing the dynamics in their relationships, they need to do a whole lot of self-inventory and communication with each other first. It doesn’t have to be a royal mess like with these two, but you can’t just dive in and hope it goes OK because it won’t, especially if your own relationship is already rocky.

My husband and I only see other people together, so he’s been around other naked men for about 5 years, but only started getting sexually involved with one of them less than a year ago. I think he’s long been curious, but it took finding the right person and the right situation, and even then, he was really nervous at first because it’s so against old programming.

I think that any move towards letting people be who they are and be attracted to who they are attracted to without so many labels and boxes can only be a good thing.