If this country actually cared about mothers, the US wouldn't have the highest maternal mortality rate in the developed world - by a LOT! We'd have universal child care - like every other developed nation in the world, and we wouldn't be legislating enforced birth with no commensurate supports for new mother and child. You don't care about children - you care about controlling women and putting them "back in their place."
This idea that mothers are the sole care-givers of children is a relatively new idea that mostly arose in the 1950s - one that is out of alignment with the vast majority of human history in which alloparenting was common (it takes a village!). There are also no reputable studies that show that women working outside the home causes problems for children. What causes issues is economic depravation when men don't pay child support or when they abandon their children - as a huge percentage of American dads do after divorce or splitting from the mother. That's the absentee parent that is harming children.
You, and men like you are one the main reasons that so many young women are opting out of marriage and children today. They see the chauvenistic bullshit that puts all the onus on them and they want no part of it. Why don't you advise dads to be involved parents, not work so much, and pay to take care of their children if they leave the relationship? Only 24% of children are being raised in Mom/Dad households as it is, and according to male experts on this stuff, if they have sufficient economic stability and loving connections, the kids are largely doing fine. Give it a rest - your emotions about his don't stand up to the data or the science. Clearly, single mom households almost always have working mothers and they are often doing just fine, thank you very much.
(University of Cambridge fatherhood expert Michael) Lamb says that decades ago, researchers were concerned about risks to children, and “their concerns were driven by a lot of cultural assumptions, which led them to propose kids are better off in the traditional family.”
“The evidence, on the whole, hasn’t supported that, but the beliefs have persisted in society,” he says.
Another expert on fatherhood, sociologist Tim Biblarz of the University of Southern California-Los Angeles, says the evidence shows economics plays a significant role in the risk for negative outcomes, such as poorer grades and lower educational attainment, substance abuse or poor social adjustment.
“Those who grow up with single mothers with adequate socioeconomic resources tend to do well. The children of poor single mothers are more at risk,” Biblarz says. “Many of the results that say that kids are at increased risk for negative outcomes have to do with economics.”
“What’s important is not whether they are raised by one or two parents. It’s how good is the relationship with the parent, how much support they’re getting from that parent and how harmonious is the environment.
Single Moms’ Sons Can Succeed, New Research Shows
Humans evolved in collaborative bands where care for the group was a primary survival strategy. Women who for whatever reason did not have adequate support often declined to even attempt to raise a child born into that situation. A new mother who didn’t feel that she could adequately care for her offspring because she didn’t have enough help might well leave it to die.
By modern standards, that sounds pretty heartless, but it served an evolutionary purpose. Human children are dependent on their mothers for longer than almost all other animals and it makes sense from an evolutionary perspective to only invest in children who have a real chance of survival. A child needs a network of care in order to thrive and it’s been that way for thousands of years.
