If you don't care the first thing about the other person as anything more than your living blow up doll, that's what is demeaning and misogynistic. If you just want an orgasm, you have a hand, you have the ability to hire a sex worker, OR you have the ability to develop a reciprocal relationship with a woman where you look at her as more than someone to service you.

I'm pansexual and polyamorous. I've been in a happy relationship with a man for 35 years and also probably slept with more women than you have plus a lot of guys, so no, I have no issue with sex as a biological urge - but I do have an issue with it as an entitlement, and even casual sex can and should be mutually gratifying, and involve basic human decency and fundamental connection -even in a casual hook-up. That's a pretty rare thing these days and unlikely to happen when a man is coming from the place of "I'm so desperate, I'll fuck anything that will let me" which is what you were describing, not me. I understand that isn't you personally saying that, but you have said that's where a lot of guys are coming from.

And no, women will not be "rewarded with the partner we deserve." That's more misognystic bullshit. About 85% of rapes are date or partner rapes. Fully half of all women who are murdered are killed by current or former partners. One in seven women has been injured by an intimate partner. Women who have sex with men have orgasms only about 40% of the time - a statistic that doesn't exist for any other sexual pairing.

Dating is tough for everyone and this idea that women have a nearly unlimited pool of acceptable partners is a farce. That's like telling someone there's a buffet table of food available to them, when it's mostly stale bread, rotting fruit, and spiders in a bowl. It's not an actual abundance of acceptable options.