If you look at the beginning of my OP, you'll note that I reference the many, many men who have challenged things I've said about this because there is an entire subsection of men who do believe this. I even reference some of my earlier stories where this has taken place. In fact, there are so many men who believe this that Fry, et al wrote a whole book about why it isn't true - a book called War, Peace, and Human Nature which I discuss in depth here:
Prior to about 6-9 thousand years ago, most humans lived in proto-agricultural communities or H/G tribes that used egalitarianism as a primary survival strategy. This means no central authority, no chiefs or other social hierarchy, everyone eats because sharing food is the norm, decisions and just about everything about life is communal, etc. They practice something called reverse hierarchy and enforced egalitarianism where the majority bands together to keep anyone who gets too big a head or too many ideas about power in check. This is still used by H/G tribes today.
Even when we get to the point where some indigenous cultures have a chief (Polynesians), or women don’t have nearly the power that men do (Australian Aboriginals), there are still strong elements of egalitarianism in many indigenous cultures today and they are a sharp contrast to the highly stratified social hierarchies and wealth disparity of Western societies. The good of the tribe still matters more than individual fortunes, and the well-being of the group is still a central focus. At the same time, individual independence and autonomy are also valued in a way that is not typical for Western cultures, which tend to favor conformity.
“In each of these societies, the dominant cultural ethos was one that emphasized individual autonomy, non-directive childrearing methods, nonviolence, sharing, cooperation, and consensual decision-making. Their core value, which underlay all of the rest, was that of the equality of individuals.” Source
In contrast, dominance hierarchies (which is what patriarchy is, fundamentally) began to arise and proliferate just a few thousand years ago. Men began to have control over women in a new way, and wealth accumulation and social stratification enforced by domination and coercion became the norm. Not only are women and children controlled by men, but weaker men are also controlled by stronger ones - via violence or the threat of it.
Dominance hierarchies are ubiquitous in Western cultures (and many others) but they are not the only way that humans are organized and they are a relatively recent development in human history. I've written about all of this quite extensively so I'm going to refer you to a few of those.
