I'm 6'1 and all my life a lot of men have either been intimidated by that (I know bc they told me so) or been antagonistic toward me for not fitting well enough into feminine norms. I experienced a huge amount of bullying from boys and men all the way through college simply for being a tall woman (despite the fact that people often asked if I were a model).

I met my husband at work when we were in our early 20s and he saw me as person - not as a threat or someone to be intimidated by, but as someone to get to know. We just hit it off as co-workers who had a lot of mutual interests and a shared sense of humor. I did like that he took the time to dress well (not a clothes horse or wearing expensive things - he was a student then and didn't have a lot of money). But he had some personal style and that absolutely was attractive. He also knew who he was and what he had to offer me in a relationship - which had nothing to do with money, status, or six-pack abs. He's my best friend and greatest champion and I am his. He's also one of the most generous and caring men I've ever met. Generous with his time and with money if someone we care about needs help.

He also take time to nurture our relationship. We have a special needs son and we have to actively carve out Us time and do things to keep the romance alive. He touches me every day - in both sexual and non-sexual ways, and tells me loves me often - almost every day, but not perfunctorily - truly. He lets me know that he desires me - not just that he's horny and I'm the socially sanctioned outlet for that.

My partner is just that - a real partner. He's not perfect, because none of us are, but he has never seen himself as above me in any way. We still laugh all the time and really talk - about our lives, but also about things that interest us, things I'm writing about etc. It's important to me to have that intellectual connection as well as a romantic one.

Gosh, I really have to thank you for asking me this question. I've got to take this and make a story in his honor. We just celebrated our 31st anniversary, so we've been together now longer than we've been apart, and it hasn't always been easy or fun - but we are committed to each other and to making our relationship work and all the hard times have been so worth it because he really is a wonderful man and I love him dearly - and I know he loves me because he shows and says it on a regular basis.