I’m a bit surprised (although very glad) that I haven’t had more of this kind of thing to deal with. Maybe it’s because the person we are most actively involved with right now is a woman. But a while back I did have a frenemy who was convinced that I had forced James into poly life and who didn’t believe that I’d never seen Nat alone (because a threesome can only be between one man and two women, right?) The concept of real communication, deep love that has no need to control, actual compersion — these are just foreign concepts to a certain type of person.