I'm not blaming anyone. I'm holding traditional masculinity accountable for the violence and the sexual violence in particular, in our country. Most people who study this stuff, including most men who study it agree with me. Individual men don't have to have "perpetrated" anything directly to be a part of upholding, maintaining, and benefiting from a problematic culture where mainstream masculine norms harm men and everyone else. There are times when women participate in that as well but it's not baked into femininity the way that it is baked into masculinity in our culture.

As I said before, all men aren't "guilty" but all men are responsible for confronting the problems in this culture.

Men shouldn’t feel guilty simply for being born male. That’s silly. If there is a reason to feel guilty, it should be about what they do or fail to do, not about their chance placement in one gender category.

I believe that men who are silent in the face of other men’s violence—whether the silence is intentional or not—are complicit in the perpetration of that violence. We’re not guilty because we’re men. We’re responsible—because we’re men—either for speaking out or for not speaking out about other men’s violence.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 30). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.