I'm sorry, but this is utter bullshit. I'm happy to hold my husband while he cries or to validate him if he's feeling insecure - as long as he's not taking that shit out on me. Not every woman acts this way because internalized patriarchy is real, but it's not a woman’s job to do your emotional work and healing for you. Patriarchy has fucked you up - put your efforts into changing the system and healing yourself, and stop demanding that women placate you at their own expense. What about her insecurities? All parties should be kind to and affirm each other but looking for a woman to put back in all the things that patriarchal culture has taken from you is anachronistic. It's not 1950 anymore!
Plus, research indicates that women want men to be vulnerable but men still don't believe it. That's not our fault. Stop blaming us for patriarchal bullshit.
"According to the survey of 1,500 people by Elite Singles, 95 per cent of women say they prefer a man who is open about his emotions, while 97 per cent say they find that men crying is considered either strong, natural or healthy.
Yet one in six men still believes that women don’t want to see them show their emotions, despite the finding that men are more likely to cry because of love than women (13 per cent vs. 11 per cent, respectively).
“This disparity between how men imagine women perceive their behaviour, and how women actually perceive men certainly goes a long way to explaining why many men feel they shouldn’t cry or show strong emotion,” the survey reads. “Further, among women with partners who took the survey, 81 per cent stated that they would like their partner to show more emotion.”
