I'm sorry to hear that and you know I never condone that sort of thing for anyone. I have no issue with the LTR part - I was simply supporting SC on the rest.

I will take you at your word about what your intentions are but I will also tell you that my experience of you is that anytime violence against women is discussed, you jump in with whataboutism which comes across as defensive and frankly, tone deaf. I personally would have loved to have heard you say some of the things you are saying now in those discussions because pretty universally what women get when trying to talk about just how bad it really is is dismissal, deflection, whataboutism, and outright hostility. If you truly wish to be an advocate and an ally for everyone's safety and wellbeing, that sort of thing really isn't helpful. When you meet people where they are, and honor their authentic experiences, only then can you begin to open them up to the possibility of what else.

And in the world I'm seeking to create, nobody is being abused and nobody is having their pain disregarded. But it's becoming clearer and clearer to me that we need men to lead this charge, and to actively de-couple aggresssion and control from how masculinity is constructed in our culture - and that isn't going to happen if most men are reacting dismissively or antagonistically to calls for just that or acting like it isn't the enormous issue that it is. Yes, other things are going on in our culture too, but most of them stem from a dominance hierarchy culture as well.

So you may want to take stock of how you are actually presenting yourself and your true intentions and beliefs before hitting the Respond button in the future.