In a professional context, the person who takes the photograph owns them, and that is generally understood by both parties upfront, but that’s not so in a personal, intimate relationship and the preponderance of laws to that effect around the country confirms this.

What you are describing is an outcropping of the patriarchal belief that women exist in the world for the enjoyment and pleasure of men. If they violate that “contract” somehow, they get what they deserve, which is to be shamed and vilified. 🤦‍♀️ This is misogyny in a nutshell.