In the past year or so, I've started asking myself, "What would be loving to me?" This helps me balance out being good to other people with also taking care of myself on a deep level. It's not just "what do I want" but what is taking good care of myself - something that is integral to happiness. I'm an eldest daughter too, and so I get it. I saw a meme the other day that said, "The strongest man you know is an eldest daughter." I think that's about right. Glad you are taking good care of yourself and doing things that bring you joy.