It makes my head hurt that people not only think this way, but feel the need to express it as well. Sorry that you had to deal with that and that she also has to deal with that sort of BS as well. Would they like strangers to publicly analyze what they do and do not deserve? I don't think so.... I wish they would stop trying to make themselves feel better at someone else's expense. It's lame.

Either help or STFU. That's my position on it.