It was a long, long time ago so it’s hard for me to remember all the specifics, but I just remember feeling really adored and attended to. Some men look at sex, particularly if it’s casual) as what it can give to them and what it can make them feel mostly in their body. It was clear with Steve that he was trying to help create something for us both that went way beyond that. Even though it was casual, it wasn’t transactional or disconnected. He treated me the way he would someone that he really loved and that meant that we both had a nicer experience.