It's a bit hilarious that since I've never been bothered or harmed at the dog park, that means I've had no bad experiences with men. He conveniently glossed over that I still take a beat to notice if there are only other men there, and make the choice to go in anyhow. I have to go through a whole threat assessment subroutine even though that happens very quickly. And, I don't do that because I've been taught to fear men. I do it because of a lifetime of my own personal experiences beginning in childhood as well as those of every woman I've talked to about this topic. I guess there are some women out there, but I've never met one of any age, political persuasion, geographic location, or socio-economic group who doesn't have stories.

Most men never hurt women, but nearly all women have been hurt by men. How are we supposed to know which one you are? Particularly when we live, as you noted, in a culture where men tend to turn a blind eye and where violence and violence against women is woven deeply into the fabric of our culture?

I may have quoted this in a comment before, but here it is again because it's so on point.

In reality, real men can be very selective about what truths they are willing to confront. Until recently, men as a group have been largely AWOL from the fight against gender violence. In one sense, it is easy to see why. Men’s violence against women is a pervasive social phenomenon with deep roots in existing personal, social, and institutional arrangements. In order for people to understand and ultimately work together to prevent it, it is first necessary for them to engage in a great deal of personal and collective introspection. This introspection can be especially threatening to men, because as perpetrators and bystanders, they are responsible for the bulk of the problem.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 24). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.