It’s not my job to do your homework for you. That’s the voice of privilege speaking — making the oppressed educate you about their oppression. Even so, I did do the homework for you anyhow. The story I shared in my last comment is full of my personal first hand experiences with this dynamic. And, as I already said, you could also go on Twitter or any other social media and witness it for yourself without requiring someone else to do that emotional labor for you.
Acting like this is some wild assertion that may well be on par with “fake news” is a pretty transparent defensive maneuver.
I didn’t write this, but it’s a good piece.