It's not women's problem to fix - which is the most prevalent narrative I see out there, and women aren't having it. We have our own problems to fix, most of them also caused by men and patriarchy. Men have got to take on the masculine norms that stem from patriarchy for themselves. We can't do that for you and we also have our own issues. What you are saying is like asking Black people to take on white people's issues - and it makes just as little sense. Men are the socially, politically, and economically dominant group and they have been for thousands of years. Go clean your own house and stop asking the people who are still actively being oppressed by male power structures to do it for you.
Women do need to support and allow men to do this, but it's not "nudging you off a bridge" to take care of themselves first and foremost. And mainstream masculinity is demonstrably killing and hurting men. Don't confront that for women - confront it for the ways it hurts you guys and we will enjoy the byproducts of that - because pretending men are fine is a crock. They are very much not fine.
Mainstream norms of masculinity rooted in domination as well as control of women drive violence against women, but also against men. And as the American Psychological Association recently noted in its new guidelines for boys and men, these norms hurt men — as well as everyone else “Thirteen years in the making, they draw on more than 40 years of research showing that traditional masculinity is psychologically harmful and that socializing boys to suppress their emotions causes damage that echoes both inwardly and outwardly.”
