I've been working on this a lot this year, with both of my partners. As awake as I am, this is so baked in that it really needs special attention payed to it. The narrative is, "I, as the woman set aside what I want in order to give you the things that you enjoy and in return you are supposed to make me happy." Jada Pinkett Smith has a great short clip on this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtlYlCHAcDU

Now, I'm working on making myself happy so that I have more to give (without resentment) to those around me. I'm asking myself, "What do I want, what do I need" more of the time. It shouldn't be revolutionary, but it is.

Good piece!