I've experienced this just as a sex writer, where men I don't know the first thing about just assume that I want to become their "special friend" for free just because they are attracted to what I write. One essentially said that I owed him because I'd turned him on. Another, who was young and very handsome, assumed I'd be thrilled to have him in my life, even though I've got several steady relationships going already. That must means that I have room for more, rather than that my dance card is pretty full, right? It's unbelievable! I can only imagine what you must deal with.