I've known several women execs who had husbands who stayed at home and did the househusband thing. They seemed to have mutually agreed to it and treated each other with respect. I've also known several women who married or lived with guys who essentially sponged off them and didn't do squat. One husband quit his job and pretty much golfed and drank at the club all day and she still had to come home and take care of all the things he did not while she was out doing a very demanding job.

So, in theory, yes, stupid anachronistic ideas about who should support whom need to die, and women need to stop buying into patriarchal norms. On the other hand, they also need to be on the lookout for hobosexuals and other freeloaders who won't pull their weight in other ways.

These days, the women who are least likely to get married are poor women. Highly educated, high performing women are the most likely to get married. Although there is more than one reason for the former dynamic, not wanting to get legally saddled with a guy who isn't doing his share on some level is certainly one of them. Modern guys are doing more and more in the arena of childcare, although they still tend to do the fun things, and not the bathing, feeding, making sure the homework is done things. In general, they are not stepping up in the same way around household chores, and that's a big issue and at least a part of this dynamic.

About 30% of women make the same as their male partners and about 20% make more, so the number of women who are theoretically shaming men for not being the provider has to be factored into that. It's a dying dynamic, although I agree that this is a very good thing because these 1950 gender roles are stupid and pointless. More traditional, conservative women buy into them more often than other women do. At some point, even they are going to have to get with the modern program.