I've never actually met a woman or heard from a woman who thinks that is the case. The only people who ever speak of this are men - arguing against something that no women (as far as I know) are asserting.

And no, it's not a myth that other men enable and turn a blind eye to sexual assault. It's quite well documented that we live in a culture that fosters the beliefs and ideas about masculinity that underlie it. And, it's not hating men to bring this up. In fact, it's something that most male researchers who study violence and gender agree with. I think you're protesting kind of way, way too much here.

“[Ours] is a culture in which sexualized violence, sexual violence, and violence-by-sex are so common that they should be considered normal. Not normal in the sense of healthy or preferred, but an expression of the sexual norms of the culture, not violations of those norms. Rape is illegal, but the sexual ethic that underlies rape is woven into the fabric of the culture.” — Robert Jensen

“After all, real rapists are scummy-looking guys hanging around dark alleys with a knife… right? Except that mostly they aren’t. In a study of college students, athletes were often a part of a subculture of sexual coercion and conquest but other young men engaged in many of the same behaviors.

And non-athletes aren’t completely off the hook. The study also found that 38 percent of male students who do not participate in sports pressured partners into having sex. Reiterating what most women know to be true: that all sorts of men can be rapists.

Moreover, researchers discovered that participants who admitted to coercing partners tended to agree with statements that justified rape, like, “If a woman doesn’t fight back, it isn’t rape,” and that reinforce traditional gender roles like, “Women should worry less about their rights and more about becoming good wives and mothers.” These exact statements were lifted from another survey developed back in 1973, proving that despite the passing of 40 years, attitudes and education toward sexual consent are still antiquated.” (The Cut)

In some cases, old-fashioned guilt keeps men from delving in too deeply. They are ashamed of their own behavior and would rather not be reminded of it. Some men avert their eyes because they are afraid of what they might learn, not only about themselves but about men around them: their brothers and friends. Finally, many men participate — in peer cultures and as consumers — in what feminists have described as a “rape and battering culture.” They laugh at sexist jokes, go out with the guys to strip clubs, and consume misogynistic pornography. So even though most men are not perpetrators, they nonetheless contribute to — and derive pleasure from — a sexist cultural climate where women are put down and sexually degraded. Thus they have little motivation to examine it critically and a lot of incentive to look away.

— Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 25). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.

We wouldn’t have the high level of violence against women -but also against men — if it weren’t an accepted and even encouraged aspect of masculine norms in our culture. Here’s a link to more research — done by men — that discusses this.

https://www.equimundo.org/resources/masculine-norms-violence-making-connections/