I've never once framed men as the enemy. As you've recently read, I'm quite into men and many of them are absolutely wonderful. But patriarchal society is not, and blaming women for the bullshit that masculine culture inflicts on them is not OK. If you don't want men and women to "battle against each other" I suggest that you join the ranks of the men who are confronting the ways that "traditional masculinity" harms everyone, most especially men.

And no, I'm not "healed from that" because I suffer from it's affects nearly every day of my life. Telling people who are systemically marginalized and oppressed that they are too angry and need to get over it is what assholes do. Are you an asshole? If not, then please act accordingly.