I've never once said that all of these need to be formalized policies. As I've already pointed out to you, there are a lot of nuances in play here. And yes, adults need to be encouraged to act like adults by being allowed to sometimes make mistakes, but at the same time, it is 100% sensible and correct to talk about the power dynamics or other socialized aspects which might be in play - something with which you've agree with. You've said that it's appropriate to talk about power dynamics and address them but when any woman does that, you seem to have a knee jerk reaction to that. This is a function of the dominance hierarchy that we are all steeped in. More on that in a new separate story.

I have no issue with people accepting personal responsibility but if you are only asking victims to do that and not perpetrators, it's an issue.