I've not once said that we shouldn't have compassion for men or failed to recognize that different men have different access to power (and frankly, you know better than to say that to me, because you know full well that I regularly talk about those things in a sympathetic way) - but the fact remains, in a patriarchal culture, men still have HUGE privilege over women in all sorts of ways. Privilege tends to indicate things that you never have to even think about much less face that other people routinely do. Even an investment banker still faces all sorts of things daily that mostly never cross your mind. It doesn't mean that you don't have problems too or that there aren't ways that you aren't also harmed by patriarchy, but if you honestly don't understand broad spectrum society power differentials and the ways that you have incredible privilege (despite not having a perfect life) then I'm not sure we have anything left to discuss.

Nobody is ever going to ask you in a work context if you plan on having children in the near future - and if you do have children, it won't impact your career. If you are a careless driver, nobody will ever attribute that to your gender. If you have low credibility as a leader at work, nobody will ever attribute that to your gender. You don't have to wonder if the Uber driver is going to sexually assault you, or if your date will, for that matter. If you've never thought twice about getting into an elevator with a man that you don't know, you have privilege. I could go on, and on, and on for pages. And the fact that you don't understand that is yet another very clear indication of just how much privilege you have.

This is not some kind of mostly equal world where we all have problems. Women surgeons are routinely getting sexually harassed while assisting in medical procedures. The women at the highest levels of power still have to fight to be taken seriously and given the same authority as men. Little girls start getting sexually harassed on the street - some as young as 8 or 9 but nearly all before the age of 17. Your problems are not remotely on that scale and the fact that you seem to think being expected to pay for dates is even close to that is disgusting, to be honest.

Lots of women have empathy for and care about homelessness. But you know what the root cause is - it's patriarchy. And acting like feminism (and not just individual women) ought to make that one of their top priorities because it affects men more than women and we need to have "equal" concern for everyone is unbelievably entitled and clueless.

Talk about a shocking lack of compassion - JFC!!! The richest women in the world have had to deal with sexism, misogyny, discrimination, and marginalization their entire lives, just like the richest Black people still have had to face racism, discrimination, and marginalization. The more social power they have helps that to be less, but it doesn’t ever go completely away. Why do you not understand that?!