I've run across too many men lately who seem to have absorbed the patriarchal cultural narrative that being a mother (and wife) is the most fulfilling thing a woman can do. They all need to read this piece and get a more realistic view as to what it's truly like. I had a lot of depression when my son was younger. We truly are not designed to do this alone, but that's what society offers us - at least right now. Many anthropologists believe it wasn't always this way.

"As John Odling-Smee points out in his review of noted sociobiologist Sarah Blaffer Hrdy’s book Mothers and Others, “Homo sapiens could never have evolved if human mothers had been required to raise their offspring on their own. Human infants are too helpless and too expensive in their demands for care and resources. So human females have to line up helpers — sometimes extending beyond their own kin — to raise their young. That requires both males and females to invest heavily in social skills for bargaining with other members of their groups. Hrdy suggests that females in ancestral hunting and gathering groups may have thrived because they were free to be flexible in this way."

Hang in there, my friend. This too shall pass, eventually but it's good that we are talking more openly about this now, rather than quietly thinking we are the only ones and that something is wrong with us.