Just for the record, I wasn't referring to you necessarily - I've had lots of men say that women are lying or that I'm crazy. Part of the problem seems to be imagining that Tik Tok or a few other places on the inter webs is a representative of women as a whole. Of course there are women who only want 6/6/6 guys, of course there are women who only want men who earn more than they do, because women have grown up in this social system as well and many are steeped in it just as much as men are.

But what actual broad across the board research study after research study shows (from countries around the world, I might add) is that the more gender equal their country, they less women care about money and status (because they have the ability to earn their own). Women want a man who shows that he has enough drive and ambition to be making his way in the world, and that he's not likely to just sponge off of them, but that doesn't equate to a certain amount of earnings in most cases. In 200 US cities, young women are actually making more than young men on average. If they aren't dating, it's not about money, it's about other things that might go along with that - such as "doesn't seem to have any drive or ambition" or other things related to low EQ, entitled behavior, doesn't know how to make the most of what he's got physically, doesn't know who he is and own that. And men don't know why they aren't getting picked, so they assume it must be money, because that makes sense to them. But overwhelmingly, it's not.

As was noted in the OP, most men are still plugged into the mindset of "If I just provide, and am halfway decent, then I'm a good catch." They haven't caught up to the idea that this is no longer enough - and so when they aren't connecting with women who actually want very different things, they revert back to assuming it must be because they aren't measuring up in the old metric. And part of the reason for that is it's much easier to blame women than it is to learn new skills, ones that aren't necessarily a part of mainstream masculinity.

You have said to me before that feeling like a guy who anyone would want to talk to feels like narcissism to you. In your particular instance, this is totally your problem. Unless and until you figure out some way to change that, I see things staying pretty much the same for you. No windfall amount of money or magic change in social status will count for anything at all if you don't think that who you are is worthy of other people's interest or attention and you are mentally comparing yourself in a hierarchy to other men in the room. I understand that you've had negative reinforcement around that, but they also haven't necessarily been rejecting your interests, or your personality - they've been rejecting your lack of self-confidence and you've just decided that it's the former, which creates a self-reinforcing dynamic. Figure out how to interrupt that.

Across the board, people tend to get with other people who are generally speaking "a match" for them. General same education level, general same socio-economic level, general same level of physical attractiveness, etc. but then this is where the ineffable qualities that you can't just check of a list come in. You have to have something to offer that makes her want to cross the divide as it were, and want to visit your island and find out about what life is like there. Something has to be intriguing or compelling and that comes from deep within.

You can keep buying into the same old disempowering and off base stories or you can put your energy into figuring out how to have the kind of radical self love and confidence that makes you a compelling island to visit. The fact that you don't yet know how to do that is irrelevant - go on a quest to figure that out. Or, keep doing what you're doing and getting the same result, but at least having the scapegoat of how it's really all women's fault. 🤷‍♀️

Edit: Most men who have partners are neither particularly good-looking or particularly rich. Ergo, that is not what is standing in your way.