Lecturing women about how they ought to feel rather than accepting that overwhelmingly, this is how they do feel is not cool. I made the same comment multiple times, because it's mind boggling to me that this isn't entirely obvious to anyone who is remotely awake and aware in the 21st century.
Saying "I find you attractive and interesting and I'd like to get to know you better" is entirely different than "Hey, you're pretty, want to go out some time?" and the fact that you can't see the difference even though I made it quite clear in my comments is a problem. I don't have time to explain it again, but think hard and re-read what I said about treating the woman like a person and see if you can suss out why your approach is fine and his was not.
Edit: In addition, 85% of American women start getting sexually harassed in childhood — many of them as young as 8 or 9 years old. Are you OK with that, and with continuing that dynamic into adulthood, where girls and women are pervasively treated as an object of desire by strange men, rather than as a fellow human being? Where they can’t go outside without being seen as a piece of cake that a hungry child is just dying to taste? Do you think that the school over-reacted or that they were responding appropriately at last to an ugly dynamic that has been allowed to go on for far too long?
