Let me guess, that comment was from a man who not only sees monogamy as the default, but also sees patriarchal elements of control as also right and natural? Anything that is not that is you being selfish. 🙄
You’ve tried to compromise and negotiate and in the end Drake is responsible for his own feelings. If he won’t work on this with you I think you have the right to make yourself happy. Resentment is a real relationship killer and you shouldn’t have to stew in yours. And if Drake ends up resenting you, that’s on him for not making more effort to collaborate on a solution.
Wishing you all the best as you find your way forward. 😘