Mainstream masculine norms drive this behavior and in addition, men turn a blind eye to it and allow it to happen. Men are responsible for 90% of all violence and about that percentage of rapes. Acting like this has nothing to do with you just because you haven't personal done anything is delusional. Your failure to do something is a huge part of the problem. You are complicit in this culture. Grow up!

In spite of significant social change in recent decades, men continue to grow up with and are socialized into a deeply misogynistic, male-dominated culture, where violence against women — from the subtle to the homicidal — is disturbingly common. It’s normal. And precisely because the mistreatment of women is such a pervasive characteristic of our patriarchal culture, most men, to a greater or lesser extent, have played a role in its perpetuation. This gives us a strong incentive to avert our eyes.

Unfortunately, few men pay any discernible price for this averting of our eyes. In part, this is because we’re not expected to do much or even care much about these issues — unless something happens to a woman or girl close to us. Most guys will say, “I’m a good guy. These aren’t my problems.” The trouble is, for a culture with as much gender violence as ours, the bar for being considered a “good guy” is set awfully low.

Katz, Jackson. The Macho Paradox (p. 14). Sourcebooks. Kindle Edition.