Mainstream masculinity is also terrible to men - as you have noted in your other comment about how you are trying to support some of the men in your life. We live in a patriarchal dominance hierarchy system. Nearly all the things that are wrong in our culture stem from that. Masculine socialization is not the same as men. If you need a break from hearing about how masculinity in this culture is harmful, take a break from reading about it for a while, because as I noted to another guy a minute ago, the only thing worse than hearing about how a demographic you are a part of has and still does a lot of harmful stuff is to be on the receiving end of that and to hear that you are out of line for stating facts and expressing that you want better.

It hurts my feelings that 85% of women started getting sexually harassed as children and that this hasn't improved one iota from when it first happened to me as a child almost 45 years ago. It hurts my feelings that 1 in 3 women will be raped - most often by a man they know or are involved with - as well as all the other BS that women have to face systemically and that rather than really confront this culture too many men are making this about them and then lashing out at women. Stop centering yourself in this narrative. It's not about you.