Men are part of a dominant and oppressive social class where they have historically and still have today significant advantages over women in many ways - by law, until just a few decades ago. Mainstream masculine norms drive violence - against both men and women; they drive rape - against both women and men. Patriarchal ideals drive racism and homophobia and garden variety bullying (to name just a few). Sexual violence is rampant and begins for most women in childhood. In other words, I don't really care if it hurts a man's feelings to hear that patriarchy is a problem or that men need to do better - because that's what the facts indicate is needed and there's no "nice" way to say that. In addition, worrying more about how it makes a man feel to hear about that than it makes a woman feel to have to live like that her entire existence is a form of misogyny. "I didn't do it" is actually a big part of the reason the dysfunction continues.

I'm at a point in my life where I don't have any more time for anything less than serious talk about this topic (because it's literally life or death for so many women) so maybe it is best if we generally steer clear of each other in the future if that's more than you want to engage in.